You’re going to be a Dad is a comprehensive book for new and expectant dads. It breaks down each stage of pregnancy and gives a dads perspective.
Disclaimer: I was gifted this product for the purpose of this review. This hasn’t influenced my opinion of the product in any way.
So, you’re going to be a dad?
What a time of life it is to be a new or expectant dad. I remember the feeling well. Full of excitement, nerves and trepidation. One thing I did struggle with though, was feeling a little pushed to one side. I wasn’t really sure what I should be doing as an expectant dad. Was there anything I could have been doing to support my wife?
Of course, I read pregnancy books to understand exactly what Mrs F was physically and emotionally going through. Although she didn’t quite follow the textbook. But none of these books and online materials really allowed me to understand what I, as a new dad should do, or could feel. It was just a 9 month waiting game for me personally. Sometimes, whilst I worked a lot, Mrs F kept shooting random terminologies at me over the phone… I had no idea what she was saying to me.
In hindsight, there was a lot of things I wish I’d known. I did it all a bit backwards though. I adopted a 2-year child, then went through pregnancy. So I knew what was coming but didn’t know how to get there if that makes sense?
Pregnancy books for Dads
I do remember searching for pregnancy material aimed towards dads, and found, literally nothing. The few materials I did find basically told me to run my wife a bath and now to her every need. Without being disrespectful, it was all aimed at the ‘mum’. What about the dad? I may not have been bearing the child, but my wife and I do everything together and I wanted to go through the pregnancy together.
Why do Dads need pregnancy books?
Times have changed. The ‘modern-day dad’ shows more emotion than those of the ‘traditional dad’. No longer is it a time of the ‘breadwinner’ and the wifey stays at home, cooking, cleaning and childbearing. The modern dad wants to be more involved in pregnancy, childbirth and raising their kids.
This is where You’re going to be a Dad! Plays a big part. The team at DaddiLife, a fatherhood website and community noted the lack of suitable material aimed at expectant and new dads and decided to write their own book.
You’re going to be a Dad review
Overall the book is a really informative read. It’s designed so that you can either read the book in its entirety or flick through to the bits you need.
It’s set out in chronological order of the three trimesters and the first year from birth. Throughout the book, you get an overview of what to expect during each month of pregnancy. It covers in detail the biology and the psychology of motherhood throughout pregnancy. It also gives an overview of what you could be going through as a Dad too including the high’s and lows.
I particularly like the brief quotes throughout the book by 50 contributing fathers, reflecting on their time as new dads. It’s not much, but it’s the little realisation that you are not the only one who feels a bit overwhelmed by it all.
I’m a Dad of three kids now, and over the years I have noticed more material surfacing orientated towards dads, so You’re going to be a Dad! is nothing new as such. However, it goes into a lot of detail and is quite comprehensive in what it actually covers. With most pregnancy books they stop at giving birth. This book doesn’t, it carries on through to the first year.
With a fair amount of medical detail and exploration of both physical and emotional feelings from both parents, it makes this book one to read. As I have mentioned, there are a few other pregnancy books for dads out there, but none that I’ve read are as medically detailed and comprehensive as this one.
It is well presented, has helpful checklists, and is detailed. The contributions from 50 other dads can make for some light reading too. With comments being sometimes serious and sometimes worthy of a giggle I did find them very relatable.
Finally, towards the end of the book, it informs you, as you are now a dad, your life has changed, forever. Speaking from experience, this is no scare tactic. Your life will and has changed forever. It will be exhausting, tiring, stressful and the rest… but it’s worth it… you’re a dad!
This book is worth the purchase if you are a new or expectant dad. The book is published by DaddiLife Books and is available on Amazon priced at £11.99