Lilly And Me Talking Periods

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Dads, how do you handle things when it comes to talking about periods and puberty? Are you comfortable talking about your daughters first period?

Dads, Daughters, and Periods

Let’s be honest, their daughter’s first period is not something most dads think about, is it? Well, I’d like to think the role of a parent should be fluid (no pun intended). Theirs a lot of new stay at home dads these days and some are having new experiences watching their child grow up. Physical maturity, periods, hormones, testosterone, and puberty are all part of the process.

Lets look at daughters though, for this article. Some daughters are close to their dads and some closer to their mams. In terms of which parent to turn to when your daughter starts her first period isnt a case of pick and choose. Being informed is key to making this first step into maturity easy for your daughter.

Are you ready for your daughter’s first period?

Ive always been quite open and frank with my kids about growing up, maturity and sex. But for some it can be quite tricky. It can be an awkward topic to talk about. Somewhat embarassing for both dad and daughter. Whats worse, in the face that your daughter is going to have her first period, it marks a big milestone in her life. Its tough, our little girls are growing up, sadly theres nothing you can do about it. Apart from following her every footstep and have a 3 week interview process for every partner she has.

Ok, so let’s look at the facts. If your daughter is aged between 9 and 15, it’s likely the big day is about to arrive. Take some time to think about this and prepare.

Forward planning

Your daughter is and will be going through some significant changes over the coming years. Although it can be stressfull and maybe frightning sometimes, you need to just deal with it. Mood swings and everything.

Around the age of 8 or 9 you need to have “the talk“. Not that you’d expect your daughter to be doing anything sexual at that age. But its important that your daughter understands what changes her body will be going through and she matures. Sex education is now part of the curriculum in the UK, but it is very much geared towards self esteem and being true to yourself and self respect.

There’s plenty of information about periods available online and plenty of books. Remember dont just give your daughter a book and say ” read that”. Be ready and available to answer questions she may have.

Be Prepared

It’s also a good idea to keep some pads and tampons on hand. A lot of people, including women, teens and tweens don’t feel particularly comfortable shopping in the ‘feminine hygiene aisle’, but it needs to be done so just do it. Be informed on these products and ask you daughter about what she would like to try when the time comes.

An informed choice

For many girls, pads are more comfortable and a little less frightening than tampons. Theres so many different varieties of sanitry products it can be a overwhelming. Most women prefer thin pads with wings. Its worth buying a few types with different absorbancies. This may seem overkill, but its easier for your daughter to figure out exactly what she needs.

Teens and Tweens talk quite openinly these days, so If you find your daughter would prefer tampons, remember, its her choice. Just make sure that she knows how to use them safely. There’s a fair few products in shops that are designed to be comfortable for tweens and young teens. Lets be honest, some dads aren’t and wont be comfortable with the idea of their young daughter using tampons and I can understand why. But again, remember, this is her choice. Its her body and must be her own informed decision.

Tampons And Pads

Dont panic Mr Mannering!

When the time comes, its important to not get all flustered and panic. Its a big deal for her. She wont want the whole world to know shes started her period. So just chillyour beans and keep calm and collected. It will make it easier for her to break the news to you and openly talk to you about other things in the future, if she needs to. It sounds a bit cliché but get a bar of decent chocolate at hand or a new set of pijams. She deffinitly wont want a ‘Period Party’ but you can certainly let her know your a proud dad of a daughter thats groing up.

Its not as embarassing as you think.

You may find that your daughter hasnt even told you that she started her period. But if you have already planned ahead, tampons and pads are already available to her. She isnt embarassed, she just finds the process a very personal one. Its a natural process and therefore doesnt require your input. You’ll be on a very much need to know basis. Just ride it out, she will talk to you, but its important to listen to what she needs. It may be a massive tub of icecream, it may be that she needs more pads. Just go with it and dont make it a ‘thing’. Its not embarrassing, its natural.

Dont offer advice

Your daughter will know more about her periods than you ever will. Even if she’s just starting out in her journey. Dont try to offer advice because you will never know what its like to have a period. By all means, read up but dont offer the advice unless she asks for it.

Girls Talk all of the time

The new generation of tweens and teens talk, a lot. Most boys at school even know when a girl is on their period. It just seems to be the way things are these days. Theres apps to track periods, theirs friends that track periods for friends. No one bats an eyelid at the word ‘period’ anymore. Take comfort in knowing your daughter has more than likely already spoke to one of her friends about periods.

Judgment day

Ok, we all know when its “the time of the month”. In addition to the stoppy teenager there will be, the mood swings, hightened emotions, cramps and pain. Suck it up Buttercup. Deal with it. Bite your lip, take deep breathes and ready yourself for when your daughter goes from being an fire breathing dragon to a teary little bunny rabbit. Be there for when she needs your support, a cuddle or just to talk. Dont be judgemental, just listen and offer advice if she asks for it.

Book a GP Appointment

Its important to ensure your daughters health is monitored too. Periods can affect people in different ways, physically and mentally. Some periods can be heavier than others and can cause different feelings, such as light headedness, severe pains etc. So its worth booking and appointment with a GP or nurse, so a medical professional can discuss everything from a medical and sexual health point of view moving forward.

Most importantly

Be her Dad. Nothing has changed, you’re little girl is just growing up.

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